On our own

Hubby and I went to a meeting with George. Just him and I. Not Conner. No baby interrupting us either. It was nice. BUT I wasn't really ready to hear what he had to say.

We chatted about Conner's anxieties in more description since he wasn't there. We talked about his past with not being able to allow us to throw things away. About how he is VERY particular about his socks and tags. About his rages and what he says while he's raging.


George made it very clear that we must try to expose him to more and more fears of his and talk to him about the lion vs the chipmunk. He gave us some ideas as to how to incorporate drawing with fears he has and how to make these fears more approachable. He also said... he only wants to meet us from now on. GULP!

I am still not sure exactly how I feel about this. I think Conner feels good knowing that someone is there to get him through these fears other than his parents and teachers. I also understand that the best therapy for these anxieties involve the parents in a very interactive way. I just wasn't ready to hear that he just wants to meet with us... only. Wow, that scares me.

Although he implied and I think even said that he thinks we are a very capable couple, I still have my doubts. He asked about any large stresses going on at home or close to home. My sister going through a wretched divorce was one of the largest things I could think of. Hubby and I have been going through a bit of a struggle (really just stressed and taking it out on each other by being snappy) and it may be showing through and reflecting on Conner.

Our homework is to talk about positive future events that imply to Conner that we will be together for a long time without just saying it. Talk about future trips or future plans. Cuddle more and help him feel more secure. Spend more one-on-one time with him and give him the extra attention he needs. I am a little overwhelmed even though this sounds pretty simple. Will this help him? He's been getting a little better on his own since the end of the year is coming up and he's looking forward to it. Bad timing for the end of the year if you ask me.

Yes, I feel like we are on our own. No, George didn't leave us. He might, however, trust us a little too much...